My Parts in Relationships
An IFS worksheet mapping the parts activated in different relationships, their behaviours and fears, and how partners' parts interact.
1-page fillable PDF · US Letter (prints on A4) · Internal Family Systems
- Approach / concern
- IFS / Parts Work
- Technique
- Internal Family Systems
- Format
- Fillable PDF, 1 page (US Letter / A4)
- Access
- Pro and Advanced plans (3-day free trial)
- For
- Licensed clinicians to use with clients
- Updated
- October 2026
Key facts
What is the My Parts in Relationships?
IFS-informed relationship work helps people notice how their protective parts react to others’ parts, creating cycles. Self-leadership interrupts these cycles.
Why it works
IFS holds that all parts have positive intentions and that Self can lead the internal system with curiosity and compassion (Schwartz & Sweezy, 2020; Schwartz, 2021).
When to use it
- IFS and parts-informed therapy
- Self-criticism and inner conflict
- Trauma (with pacing)
- Between-session practice
How to use it in session
- List key relationships.
- Identify active parts.
- Note behaviour and fear.
- Map interaction cycles.
- Plan a Self-led response.
Clinician tips
- Avoid diagnosing the partner’s parts.
- Useful before couples sessions.
- Link to attachment needs.
Worked example
Sharing with clients
Members can download the PDF to print or email, or copy a private client link from the download box. Your client opens the link and downloads the worksheet on any device. No client account is needed, and nothing your client writes is stored on TherapyAid.
Frequently asked questions
Does my partner need to do IFS too?
No. Noticing your own parts can change the dynamic.
How is this different from attachment styles?
It looks at specific parts and their roles rather than one overall style.
References
Schwartz, R. C., & Sweezy, M. (2020). Internal family systems therapy (2nd ed.). Guilford Press.
Schwartz, R. C. (2021). No bad parts: Healing trauma and restoring wholeness with the internal family systems model. Sounds True.
This worksheet is an educational tool for use by, or under the guidance of, a licensed or registered mental-health professional. It is not a diagnostic instrument or a substitute for clinical judgement. If a client is in crisis in Canada, call or text 9-8-8 or call 9-1-1.
