Passive, Aggressive or Assertive?
An assertiveness training worksheet comparing passive, assertive and aggressive styles, with a practice table for rewriting real situations and a body-language checklist.
1-page fillable PDF · US Letter (prints on A4) · Assertiveness training
- Approach / concern
- Anger
- Technique
- Assertiveness training
- Format
- Fillable PDF, 1 page (US Letter / A4)
- Access
- Pro and Advanced plans (3-day free trial)
- For
- Licensed clinicians to use with clients
- Updated
- October 2026
Key facts
What is the Passive, Aggressive or Assertive??
Assertiveness training teaches people to express thoughts, feelings and needs directly and respectfully. Distinguishing passive, aggressive and assertive styles helps clients notice patterns and practise alternatives.
Why it works
Assertiveness training is an evidence-based intervention with benefits for depression, anxiety, anger and interpersonal problems (Speed et al., 2018). It complements DBT interpersonal effectiveness skills (Linehan, 2015).
When to use it
- People-pleasing and difficulty saying no
- Anger and aggressive communication
- Social anxiety
- Workplace and family conflict
How to use it in session
- Describe the three styles with examples.
- Identify the client’s usual style in different settings.
- Rewrite real situations assertively.
- Role-play with feedback on body language.
- Assign real-world practice.
Clinician tips
- Start with low-stakes situations.
- Assertiveness improves odds; it doesn’t guarantee outcomes.
- Consider cultural norms around directness.
Worked example
Sharing with clients
Members can download the PDF to print or email, or copy a private client link from the download box. Your client opens the link and downloads the worksheet on any device. No client account is needed, and nothing your client writes is stored on TherapyAid.
Frequently asked questions
Is assertiveness the same as being pushy?
No. Assertiveness respects both your needs and the other person’s; pushiness ignores the other person.
What if assertiveness isn’t valued in my culture?
Assertiveness can be adapted; the core is honesty and respect, expressed in culturally fitting ways.
References
Speed, B. C., Goldstein, B. L., & Goldfried, M. R. (2018). Assertiveness training: A forgotten evidence-based treatment. Clinical Psychology: Science and Practice, 25(1), e12216.
Linehan, M. M. (2015). DBT skills training manual (2nd ed.). Guilford Press.
This worksheet is an educational tool for use by, or under the guidance of, a licensed or registered mental-health professional. It is not a diagnostic instrument or a substitute for clinical judgement. If a client is in crisis in Canada, call or text 9-8-8 or call 9-1-1.
