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Validating Others: Six Levels

A DBT validation worksheet teaching six levels of validation with practice responses for real situations.

1-page fillable PDF · US Letter (prints on A4) · DBT · Validation

Key facts

Approach / concern
DBT
Technique
DBT · Validation
Format
Fillable PDF, 1 page (US Letter / A4)
Access
Pro and Advanced plans (3-day free trial)
For
Licensed clinicians to use with clients
Updated
October 2026

What is the Validating Others: Six Levels?

Validation is a core DBT strategy and skill. Communicating understanding reduces emotional arousal and strengthens relationships.

Why it works

Linehan (2015) describes levels of validation in DBT interpersonal skills. Validation is emphasized in DBT for adolescents and families (Rathus & Miller, 2015).

When to use it

  • Families and couples
  • Parents of teens
  • DBT skills groups
  • Conflict resolution

How to use it in session

  1. Learn the levels.
  2. Pick real situations.
  3. Write validating responses.
  4. Practise in role-play.
  5. Notice effects.

Clinician tips

  • Validate the valid, not everything.
  • Avoid ‘but’ after validating.
  • Pair with self-validation.

Worked example

Teen: ‘Everyone hates me.’ Validating: ‘Sounds like today felt really lonely. That’s so hard.’

Sharing with clients

Members can download the PDF to print or email, or copy a private client link from the download box. Your client opens the link and downloads the worksheet on any device. No client account is needed, and nothing your client writes is stored on TherapyAid.

Frequently asked questions

Does validating mean I agree?

No. You’re acknowledging that their feelings make sense, not agreeing with every view.

Why does validation calm conflict?

Feeling understood lowers emotional arousal, making problem-solving easier.

References

Linehan, M. M. (2015). DBT skills training manual (2nd ed.). Guilford Press.

Rathus, J. H., & Miller, A. L. (2015). DBT skills manual for adolescents. Guilford Press.

This worksheet is an educational tool for use by, or under the guidance of, a licensed or registered mental-health professional. It is not a diagnostic instrument or a substitute for clinical judgement. If a client is in crisis in Canada, call or text 9-8-8 or call 9-1-1.