Rituals of Connection
A couples worksheet reviewing current and desired rituals of connection across daily, weekly and yearly moments, with a new ritual to start.
1-page fillable PDF · US Letter (prints on A4) · Gottman Method
- Approach / concern
- Couples & Relationships
- Technique
- Gottman Method
- Format
- Fillable PDF, 1 page (US Letter / A4)
- Access
- Advanced plan
- For
- Licensed clinicians to use with clients
- Updated
- October 2026
Key facts
What is the Rituals of Connection?
Rituals of connection are regular, meaningful practices that build shared meaning and emotional connection between partners.
Why it works
Gottman and Silver (2015) describe rituals of connection as part of creating shared meaning. Dyadic coping and daily connection buffer couples against stress (Bodenmann, 2005).
When to use it
- Busy or disconnected couples
- New parents
- Long-distance relationships
- Relationship maintenance
How to use it in session
- Review current rituals.
- Brainstorm additions.
- Choose one to start.
- Practise for a month.
- Review together.
Clinician tips
- Keep rituals small and realistic.
- Include both partners’ preferences.
- Adapt to culture and family.
Worked example
Sharing with clients
Members can download the PDF to print or email, or copy a private client link from the download box. Your client opens the link and downloads the worksheet on any device. No client account is needed, and nothing your client writes is stored on TherapyAid.
Frequently asked questions
Why do small rituals matter?
They create reliable moments of connection that add up over time.
What if we’re too busy?
Even 5-minute rituals help, especially during busy seasons.
References
Gottman, J. M., & Silver, N. (2015). The seven principles for making marriage work (Rev. ed.). Harmony Books.
Bodenmann, G. (2005). Dyadic coping and its significance for marital functioning. In T. A. Revenson, K. Kayser, & G. Bodenmann (Eds.), Couples coping with stress: Emerging perspectives on dyadic coping (pp. 33-49). American Psychological Association.
This worksheet is an educational tool for use by, or under the guidance of, a licensed or registered mental-health professional. It is not a diagnostic instrument or a substitute for clinical judgement. If a client is in crisis in Canada, call or text 9-8-8 or call 9-1-1.
