Myths That Get in the Way of Asking
A DBT interpersonal effectiveness worksheet challenging myths that block asking for needs or saying no, with fit ratings and challenging statements.
1-page fillable PDF · US Letter (prints on A4) · DBT · Interpersonal effectiveness
- Approach / concern
- DBT
- Technique
- DBT · Interpersonal effectiveness
- Format
- Fillable PDF, 1 page (US Letter / A4)
- Access
- Pro and Advanced plans (3-day free trial)
- For
- Licensed clinicians to use with clients
- Updated
- October 2026
Key facts
What is the Myths That Get in the Way of Asking?
Cognitive myths about interpersonal effectiveness can interfere with assertive requests and limit-setting. Challenging statements support use of skills such as DEAR MAN.
Why it works
DBT interpersonal effectiveness training includes challenging myths (Linehan, 2015). Adolescent DBT adapts these skills for teens (Rathus & Miller, 2015).
When to use it
- People-pleasing
- Difficulty saying no
- Relationship conflict
- DBT skills groups
How to use it in session
- Read each myth.
- Rate fit.
- Write challenging statements.
- Practise with DEAR MAN.
- Notice changes.
Clinician tips
- Role-play requests in session.
- Explore cultural and family norms.
- Celebrate small assertive acts.
Worked example
Sharing with clients
Members can download the PDF to print or email, or copy a private client link from the download box. Your client opens the link and downloads the worksheet on any device. No client account is needed, and nothing your client writes is stored on TherapyAid.
Frequently asked questions
Why is it so hard to say no?
Beliefs about others’ reactions and our worth often get in the way.
How do I start asking for what I need?
Begin with small, low-stakes requests and use the DEAR MAN skill.
References
Linehan, M. M. (2015). DBT skills training manual (2nd ed.). Guilford Press.
Rathus, J. H., & Miller, A. L. (2015). DBT skills manual for adolescents. Guilford Press.
This worksheet is an educational tool for use by, or under the guidance of, a licensed or registered mental-health professional. It is not a diagnostic instrument or a substitute for clinical judgement. If a client is in crisis in Canada, call or text 9-8-8 or call 9-1-1.
