Our Relationship Vision & Shared Values
A couples worksheet where each partner answers six vision questions side by side, then writes a shared relationship vision and three guiding values.
1-page fillable PDF · US Letter (prints on A4) · Couples therapy · Values
- Approach / concern
- Couples & Relationships
- Technique
- Couples therapy · Values
- Format
- Fillable PDF, 1 page (US Letter / A4)
- Access
- Advanced plan
- For
- Licensed clinicians to use with clients
- Updated
- October 2026
Key facts
What is the Our Relationship Vision & Shared Values?
Creating shared meaning, a sense of common purpose, rituals and values, is an important dimension of long-term relationships. This worksheet structures a conversation about each partner’s hopes and helps the couple articulate a joint vision.
Why it works
Shared meaning and rituals of connection are described as protective in long-term relationships (Gottman & Silver, 2015). Attachment-focused couples work highlights the importance of feeling like a team with a shared direction (Johnson, 2008).
When to use it
- Premarital and early-relationship counselling
- Couples after a crisis rebuilding
- Life transitions (new baby, moves, retirement)
- Couples maintenance and enrichment
How to use it in session
- Each partner completes their column privately.
- Compare answers in session with curiosity.
- Highlight overlap and respectful differences.
- Write a shared vision together.
- Revisit annually.
Clinician tips
- Differences are normal; look for ways both can be honoured.
- Keep the vision short and personal.
- Use as a reference point during conflict.
Worked example
Sharing with clients
Members can download the PDF to print or email, or copy a private client link from the download box. Your client opens the link and downloads the worksheet on any device. No client account is needed, and nothing your client writes is stored on TherapyAid.
Frequently asked questions
What if our visions are very different?
That’s useful information. Explore the needs behind each vision; a therapist can help find workable common ground.
Can unmarried or new couples use this?
Yes. It works for any committed couple at any stage.
References
Gottman, J. M., & Silver, N. (2015). The seven principles for making marriage work (Rev. ed.). Harmony Books.
Johnson, S. M. (2008). Hold me tight: Seven conversations for a lifetime of love. Little, Brown.
This worksheet is an educational tool for use by, or under the guidance of, a licensed or registered mental-health professional. It is not a diagnostic instrument or a substitute for clinical judgement. If a client is in crisis in Canada, call or text 9-8-8 or call 9-1-1.
