Talking to Children About Separation
A parenting worksheet planning how to tell children about separation, with key messages, simple words, continuity and ongoing support.
1-page fillable PDF · US Letter (prints on A4) · Family transitions
- Approach / concern
- Family Therapy
- Technique
- Family transitions
- Format
- Fillable PDF, 1 page (US Letter / A4)
- Access
- Pro and Advanced plans (3-day free trial)
- For
- Licensed clinicians to use with clients
- Updated
- October 2026
Key facts
What is the Talking to Children About Separation?
Children’s adjustment after separation is influenced by parental conflict, communication and stability. Planning the conversation reduces distress and confusion.
Why it works
Research on divorce shows that parental conflict and instability, more than separation itself, affect children’s outcomes (Amato, 2010). Clear, child-focused communication supports adjustment in family transitions (Papernow, 2013).
When to use it
- Separating parents
- Family therapy
- Co-parenting counselling
- Mediation
How to use it in session
- Plan together where possible.
- Agree key messages.
- Choose simple words.
- Plan continuity.
- Plan ongoing support.
Clinician tips
- Never involve children in adult conflict.
- Adjust for age.
- Screen for family violence.
Worked example
Sharing with clients
Members can download the PDF to print or email, or copy a private client link from the download box. Your client opens the link and downloads the worksheet on any device. No client account is needed, and nothing your client writes is stored on TherapyAid.
Frequently asked questions
Should we tell the children together?
If it’s safe and possible, telling them together shows you’re still a parenting team.
How will I know if my child is struggling?
Watch for changes in sleep, mood, behaviour or school, and keep talking.
References
Amato, P. R. (2010). Research on divorce: Continuing trends and new developments. Journal of Marriage and Family, 72(3), 650-666.
Papernow, P. L. (2013). Surviving and thriving in stepfamily relationships: What works and what doesn’t. Routledge.
This worksheet is an educational tool for use by, or under the guidance of, a licensed or registered mental-health professional. It is not a diagnostic instrument or a substitute for clinical judgement. If a client is in crisis in Canada, call or text 9-8-8 or call 9-1-1.
