Two Homes, One Me (Kids)
A child-friendly separation worksheet describing each home, things that stay the same, what's hard, feelings and supportive adults, with reassurance messaging.
1-page fillable PDF · US Letter (prints on A4) · Separation & divorce
- Approach / concern
- For Kids
- Technique
- Separation & divorce
- Format
- Fillable PDF, 1 page (US Letter / A4)
- Access
- Pro and Advanced plans (3-day free trial)
- For
- Licensed clinicians to use with clients
- Updated
- October 2026
Key facts
What is the Two Homes, One Me (Kids)?
Children of separated parents often adjust best with predictable routines, low conflict between parents and opportunities to express feelings. This activity supports children in describing their experience of two homes.
Why it works
Interparental conflict is a key predictor of children’s adjustment after divorce (Amato, 2010). Cooperative co-parenting and mediation can reduce conflict and support children (Emery, 2012).
When to use it
- Children aged about 5-11 after separation
- School counselling
- Family therapy and mediation contexts
- Transitions between homes
How to use it in session
- Explore each home without comparing parents.
- Identify consistent routines and comfort items.
- Name hard parts and feelings.
- Reassure the child it’s not their fault.
- Share with parents to support consistency, with the child’s agreement.
Clinician tips
- Avoid asking children to choose sides or carry messages.
- Consistency across homes reduces stress.
- Watch for signs of distress needing extra support.
Worked example
Sharing with clients
Members can download the PDF to print or email, or copy a private client link from the download box. Your client opens the link and downloads the worksheet on any device. No client account is needed, and nothing your client writes is stored on TherapyAid.
Frequently asked questions
How can parents help children with two homes?
Keep conflict away from children, maintain routines, and make transitions predictable.
Is it normal for children to act out after separation?
Yes, changes in behaviour are common. Patience, routine and support usually help; seek help if problems persist.
References
Amato, P. R. (2010). Research on divorce: Continuing trends and new developments. Journal of Marriage and Family, 72(3), 650-666.
Emery, R. E. (2012). Renegotiating family relationships: Divorce, child custody, and mediation (2nd ed.). Guilford Press.
This worksheet is an educational tool for use by, or under the guidance of, a licensed or registered mental-health professional. It is not a diagnostic instrument or a substitute for clinical judgement. If a client is in crisis in Canada, call or text 9-8-8 or call 9-1-1.
