Attachment Alarm & Protest Behaviours Log
An attachment-informed log tracking triggers, alarm intensity, protest or withdrawal behaviours, underlying needs and alternative ways to ask for connection.
1-page fillable PDF · US Letter (prints on A4) · Attachment-informed · EFT
- Approach / concern
- Attachment
- Technique
- Attachment-informed · EFT
- Format
- Fillable PDF, 1 page (US Letter / A4)
- Access
- Pro and Advanced plans (3-day free trial)
- For
- Licensed clinicians to use with clients
- Updated
- October 2026
Key facts
What is the Attachment Alarm & Protest Behaviours Log?
Protest behaviours are attempts to re-establish connection when attachment needs feel threatened, such as repeated contacting, criticism or jealousy. Withdrawal is the deactivating counterpart. Emotionally focused therapy helps people express underlying attachment needs directly.
Why it works
Emotionally focused therapy frames relational distress as attachment protest and helps partners express softer primary emotions and needs (Johnson, 2019). Popular attachment literature describes common protest behaviours in anxious attachment (Levine & Heller, 2010).
When to use it
- Anxious or avoidant attachment patterns
- Relationship conflict
- Couples therapy (individual homework)
- Jealousy and reassurance seeking
How to use it in session
- Explain the attachment alarm.
- Log triggers and reactions without judgement.
- Identify the need underneath.
- Draft a direct, vulnerable ask.
- Practise in session before trying it.
Clinician tips
- Validate protest as understandable.
- Avoid labelling clients ‘needy’.
- Screen for abuse before encouraging vulnerability with a partner.
Worked example
Sharing with clients
Members can download the PDF to print or email, or copy a private client link from the download box. Your client opens the link and downloads the worksheet on any device. No client account is needed, and nothing your client writes is stored on TherapyAid.
Frequently asked questions
Are protest behaviours manipulative?
They’re usually unconscious attempts to restore connection, though they can push people away.
Does this apply to avoidant attachment?
Yes. Withdrawing or shutting down is the other side of the same alarm.
References
Johnson, S. M. (2019). Attachment theory in practice: Emotionally focused therapy (EFT) with individuals, couples, and families. Guilford Press.
Levine, A., & Heller, R. S. F. (2010). Attached: The new science of adult attachment and how it can help you find, and keep, love. TarcherPerigee.
This worksheet is an educational tool for use by, or under the guidance of, a licensed or registered mental-health professional. It is not a diagnostic instrument or a substitute for clinical judgement. If a client is in crisis in Canada, call or text 9-8-8 or call 9-1-1.
