ADHD in Our Relationship
A couples worksheet exploring how ADHD affects the relationship, each partner's feelings, supports to try and mutual appreciation.
1-page fillable PDF · US Letter (prints on A4) · Couples · ADHD
- Approach / concern
- ADHD & Neurodiversity
- Technique
- Couples · ADHD
- Format
- Fillable PDF, 1 page (US Letter / A4)
- Access
- Pro and Advanced plans (3-day free trial)
- For
- Licensed clinicians to use with clients
- Updated
- October 2026
Key facts
What is the ADHD in Our Relationship?
ADHD can create predictable relational patterns such as pursuer-distancer and parent-child dynamics. Psychoeducation and shared strategies reduce blame.
Why it works
Barkley (2010) describes ADHD’s effects on adult functioning, including relationships. Gottman and Silver (2015) highlight fondness and turning toward as protective.
When to use it
- Couples where one or both have ADHD
- Recurring conflict over chores and forgetfulness
- Couples therapy
- New diagnosis
How to use it in session
- Describe patterns.
- Share feelings.
- Agree supports.
- Note appreciations.
- Review monthly.
Clinician tips
- Avoid labelling one partner the ‘problem’.
- Address resentment.
- Consider ADHD treatment.
Worked example
Sharing with clients
Members can download the PDF to print or email, or copy a private client link from the download box. Your client opens the link and downloads the worksheet on any device. No client account is needed, and nothing your client writes is stored on TherapyAid.
Frequently asked questions
Is the ADHD partner just not trying?
ADHD affects attention and memory; effort alone often isn’t enough without supports.
Can couples therapy help with ADHD?
Yes, especially combined with ADHD treatment and practical strategies.
References
Barkley, R. A. (2010). Taking charge of adult ADHD. Guilford Press.
Gottman, J. M., & Silver, N. (2015). The seven principles for making marriage work (Rev. ed.). Harmony Books.
This worksheet is an educational tool for use by, or under the guidance of, a licensed or registered mental-health professional. It is not a diagnostic instrument or a substitute for clinical judgement. If a client is in crisis in Canada, call or text 9-8-8 or call 9-1-1.
